A Letter from Your Adopted Dog... 

(Very important information for my new family)

I have finally found you! I have waited so long to be part of a family.  

I will, however, need your help during these first few weeks as I will no doubt be feeling sad and frightened. 

I have just lost my home again.  In my foster home I became used to the smells, sounds, and comfort of the other dogs, some of whom became my very best friends. I have also just lost my foster parents - some of the first people to be patient and kind to me. They spent a lot of time encouraging me to become my best self so that I could be ready to meet a family like you! I will now be in a new world and have various different routines to learn. Some of my friends back in Romania have never had a forever home but I can do this! This will be my job for the first few weeks I am with you. 

Give me at least two weeks for us to get to know each other and for me to feel like I am truly at home. Please do not venture out with me on busy streets and areas with lots of dogs and people my first week. It might overwhelm me and I will get scared.

Picture me as an empty bucket.  I am a bucket that holds stress.  I added to the bucket with each of the changes I mentioned and it will take weeks for some of the stress hormones to leave my body.  Add to all that stress, the fact that I was not socialised well as a puppy means I may not have learned the necessary skills to frequently adjust to new things. My bucket is already nearly full!  If it overflows I might overreact to events and growl, snap, cower or bite. Please do not worry if I do not sleep in the new bed you gave me right away or want to go for walks. I have not had a bed of my own and the new sounds might frighten me. And please do not yell at me or punish me in a negative way, as I might become more fearful and reluctant to bond with you. And if I chew on something I am not supposed to, it is because I do not understand so give me something else to focus on and chew that is acceptable. If you notice that I am becoming more confident, please encourage me with treats and softly spoken verbal praise. Do not take this as a sign that I am ready to be rushed to meeting other friends and family; give me the right amount of time as outlined by my foster family and adoption team! 

Please help me progress but do not rush me or push me into doing things.

 

Love your new friend :)